5 tips for choosing an engagement ring without ruining the surprise

You want to be able to buy your partner the diamond ring that they have dreamed of, but you don't want to ask her directly and ruin the surprise, “how do i find out what kind of engagement ring my partner wants without them finding out?” is a universal question that all engagement ring shoppers have asked themselves. At Goldenet, we are always striving to be as helpful as possible throughout your journey, so we decided to compile some tips for you about how to figure out what ring to choose for your partner. If you can equip yourself with some of the information below, we can assist you on your mission and piece together the rest of the puzzle.

Ask the closest people around them

We know that you consider yourself your partner's best friend and soulmate, but there is someone else close to your partner that has been present for all the shopping trips over the years and someone they call regularly to talk about everything. They may have known your partner for longer than you and know exactly what they want!

You should try asking their best friend, sister or even mum if you can. There's a high chance that your partner has previously mentioned what kind of ring design is her favourite to them. If it has not been discussed, then at the very least these people should know her style and taste better than anyone else and be able to point you in the right direction. If possible, ask for their help in shopping for her engagement ring. The opinion of a close friend or family member will go a long way in helping you choose the right ring.

Look through their social media

We do not condone going directly into your partner's phone and checking their photos and social media accounts... We simply suggest that if your partner is active on social media, it may be beneficial for you to check their facebook, instagram or pinterest pages to see if they have posted any jewelry photos or liked particular designs that can lead you in the right direction. If you have talked about getting engaged previously, your partner may have left you some hints on her pages (maybe even on purpose) about what engagement ring they want. This might be a dead end for many, but it is definitely worth looking into.

Observe their style

If you aren't getting any results so far and can't figure out the specific ring design that your partner is going to like then the next step is to observe their style. Look at how your partner dresses, look at the type of jewelry they wear. Are the designs on the jewelry simple and minimal? Are there small stones or large stones? Do they wear flashy and loud jewelry? Do they like to make a statement or are they more subdued in their style? Does your partner tend to avoid jewelry completely?

If your partner doesn't usually wear jewelry then it's safe to assume that they will enjoy a subtle ring, nothing too big and nothing with too many stones, something simple and elegant that is beautiful but does not attract too much attention. If your partner tends to wear big, flashy, bold jewelry then chances are they will enjoy a bigger ring with many stones. Nowadays, a more subdued minimalistic approach is popular. People are wearing less pieces, and smaller pieces for a clean uncluttered look. If your partner wears minimal jewelry then they will want a smaller simple engagement ring. Observe your partner's style and you will get a better idea about what type of engagement ring they want.

Have a friend take her to a shopping mall

We touched on this earlier when we advised you to talk to the people closest to your partner. If you're not convinced yet and need more help deciding the exact design they would want, but still want to be subtle about it and not ruin the surprise, then you can reach out to your partner's closest friend. Ask them to take your partner out for lunch and discreetly mention window shopping for jewelry. Make a plan with the close friend you have chosen for them to spontaneously do some window shopping and look at some engagement rings, chatting about which one they like best. Your request will be well received and the close friend will love to be in on the ruse. This is a fool proof way of finding out the exact style that your partner will prefer, but the close friend needs to showcase some decent acting, tact, stealth and subtlety. If your proposal is still a complete secret and your partner is not suspicious about your intentions thus far, they will never know what you are up to.

Go for a classic ring

If your endeavours so far have been fruitless, do not despair. It's possible that your partner does not have a preference, hasn't considered it before, or doesn't mind what ring it is, as long as it's from you. Everyone that has proposed before has gone through this and it is best not to lose sleep over the decision. If you end up choosing a ring for your partner that you like, tell them why you chose the ring, it may just be exactly what makes your proposal special. We are here to recommend some classic engagement ring designs and we can explore options based on your budget too.

You are trying to find an engagement ring that symbolises your promise and commitment to spending the rest of your life together. That in itself is beautiful, so remember to enjoy the process and feel good about it. Feel free to contact us for helpful advice and guidance.